Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Confiance

Faith (Eng)/ Confiance (Fr.): noun; Confidence or trust in a person, thing, or concept. Belief that is not based on proof.


I recently read a New York Times article about a Tony award winning playwright/performer , Sarah Jones, who recently received a commission from the Lincoln Center to develop an unspecified show. She has no idea what it will be about or what she will create, yet the clock is ticking to create it. Her specialty is to scour the city streets of New York City in search of people who represent "cultural fault lines that unite and divide the city" and to pluck these characters ripe for her own inspriration.


Although I am not a playwright, a performer, nor a New Yorker, I do have a few things in common with Ms. Jones. 

  • I have been given a commission from the universe to create the life of my dreams, and have also been gifted the backdrop of Paris. 
  • I search the city for inspiration and find myself eavesdropping on conversations in languages that I don't totally understand, peering in apartment windows at dusk to imagine the life within it, chameleon-ing myself to whomever I am interacting with out of authenticity in the moment.
  • I don't know what my story will be, but I go in search of it and trust that it is unfolding exactly as it should. To be doing it in Paris at this moment gives me the peace of mind that I am in the right place for right now.
“I’m practicing a kind of meandering faith, or faithful meandering, I just trust that something is coming. I don’t know what it is. But I’ve been a straphanger all my life; I know what it’s like to not know when the next train is coming, but I trust the subway.”
- Sarah Jones, Unlicensed anthropologist, an explorer of the cultural fault lines that unite and divide the city, Tony award winning performer and playwright


Click here to read the entire NYTimes article--Sarah Jones, Scouting the City for Her Characters.

Sunday, August 7, 2011

Situation


Situation (Eng.)/ Situation (Fr.): noun. Condition, case, or plight.

I am in the midst of a catastrophic situation. I am doing everything I can to sort through it, keep my balance and composure, relish in gratitude for the friends and family who have quickly risen to my aid and support, trust in the humanity of large corporations, and believe that everything will eventually be okay.

But it is hard, I am not going to lie.

One of the reasons that I love Paris is because it activates my imagination and provides the perfect environment for me to dream and marinade in life's possibilities. However, when life is serving up a big fat dose of crap back in my homeland it can be hard, no matter where I am, to shift my perspective back to the space of dreams and possibilities. So today I sought out one of the only surefire ways I know to help me revisit this happier perspective. I went to Musee Bourdelle for the Madame Gres exhibition.

For the two hours that I was there, I only thought about my situation a couple of times. But more than that, for the most part I felt inspired and hopeful. That is a huge improvement from the past few days and reminded me that no matter how horrible things may seem at any given moment, there is always something else that can bring us to a happier state if we let it. Our job is to give ourselves permission to feel better and to seek out an opportunity to shift our focus (even if only momentarily).

Here are just a few of today's perspective shifting images:







Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Les Instructions


How to live your dream life

Step One: You have to know what you want, defined in terms of the end result.

Step Two: You have to physically and mentally move towards it, without defining the hows. Smallish baby steps work well vs. tackling too large of steps that could leave you feeling overwhelmed and defeated.

Step Three: Believe that it is coming to you.

Step Four: The thing that you want actually starts coming to you, on its own terms, from a direction completely unexpected.

I am currently in Step Three. Where are you?

Friday, July 8, 2011

Marche

Photo by Tommy Ton

Step (Eng.)/Marcher (Fr.) verb: The single complete movement of raising one foot and putting it down in another spot.

I am revisiting a concept that I was turned onto while in Rome a couple of months ago. The concept of "stepping out".

Rome is notorious for its insane driving. My chauffeur  who picked me up from the airport gave me some very useful advice for my stay, "To cross the street, you must step out into the traffic. Otherwise, if you wait for the traffic to stop, you will be waiting for ever. I am not kidding."

I found this advice especially poignant, considering that I knew only one word in Italian-- attraversiamo, which means "to cross".

He was right. Yet stepping out into crazy traffic is easier said than done. I discovered that it was a good idea to draft off of the "stepping out" of the locals. The older Italian woman were usually the best to draft off of, the tourists on the other hand, not so much. This drafting allowed me the opportunity to recognize the best "stepping out" opportunities and to gain the confidence to do it more effortlessly and independently.

I pondered this metaphor for life throughout the duration of my trip. And I continue to revisit this concept during my return in Paris.

Thursday, June 30, 2011

Distraction

Photo by Garance Dore

Distraction (Fr.)/ Distraction (Eng.): Something that serves as a diversion or entertainment. An interupction, and obstacle to concentration.

Have you ever noticed that when you plant a seed in the soil and check back on it every. single. day. that it doesn't seem to grow? However, when you step away from it (aside from occasional waterings), and forget about it while you are doing other things, something magical happens?

This is perhaps the gift of distraction-- to allow magic to happen when we aren't over watering, over anxious, or trying too hard in the grips of making one particular thing happen with all of our might. I have been struggling with my creative inspiration for a writing project that I am working on. It has even seeped over to my blog (have you noticed that my posts have slowed to a snail's pace?).

I came across an interview with Eat, Pray, Love author Liz Gilbert that turned me onto the gift of distractions (*warning, this is a longer than normal post, so grab a cup of coffee, matcha, or wine and enjoy*):

"Here's what happened: After the unexpected success of Eat, Pray, Love, I diligently sat down to work on my next project—another memoir. I worked hard, as always, conducting years of research and interviews. And when I was finished, I had produced a first draft that was...awful."

"My old friend Sarah, seeing me so troubled, came to the rescue with this sage advice: "Take a break! Don't worry about following your passion for a while. Just follow your curiosity instead."

"She was not suggesting that I ditch my passion forever, of course, but rather that I temporarily ease off the pressure by exploring something new, some completely unrelated creative endeavor—something that I could find interesting, but with much lower emotional stakes. When passion feels so out of reach, Sarah explained, curiosity can be a calming diversion. If passion is a tower of flame, then curiosity is a modest spark—and we can almost always summon up a modest spark of interest about something."

"So what was my modest spark? Gardening, as it turned out. Following my friend's advice, I stepped away from my writing desk and spent six months absentmindedly digging in the dirt. I had some successes (fabulous tomatoes!); I had some failures (collapsed bean poles!). None of it really mattered, though, because gardening, after all, was just my curiosity—something to keep me modestly engaged through a difficult period. (At such moments, believe me, even modest engagement can feel like a victory.)"

"Then the miracle happened. Autumn came. I was pulling up the spent tomato vines when—quite suddenly, out of nowhere—I realized exactly how to fix my book. I washed my hands, returned to my desk, and within three months I'd completed the final version of Committed- a bool that I now love."

"Gardening, in other words, had turned me back into a writer."

"So here's my weird bit of advice: If you've lost your life's true passion (or if you're struggling desperately to find passion in the first place), don't sweat it. Back off for a while. But don't go idle, either. Just try something different, something you don't care about so much. Why not try following mere curiosity, with its humble, roundabout magic? At the very least, it will keep you pleasantly distracted while life sorts itself out. At the very most, your curiosity may surprise you. Before you even realize what's happening, it may have led you safely all the way home."

-Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love and Committed*


* you can read the whole interview here.

Monday, June 20, 2011

Les Essentiels: Juin

(Photo by Tommy Ton at jakandjil.com)

Essentiels (Fr.)/ Essentials (Eng.) (adjective): absolutely necessary; indispensible.


Ten things that I can't live without right now:
  1. All things Google (general search, google maps, google translate,etc.)
  2. Kiehl's lip balm
  3. Baies and Figuer Diptyque candles (burning simultaneously)
  4. Cartier tank watch on a black crocodile strap 
  5. SALT aviator sunglasses
  6. Skype
  7. Creative Inspiration: OFR Bookstore in Paris never disappoints as an ongoing source of inspiration.
  8. Wine (specifically Amphibolite Nature vin blanc and Les Pieds Rotis bubbles from Paris Terroirs)
  9. Avocados
  10. Clouds in the Luxemborg Gardens
What's on your list?


Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Talent

Photo by Terry Richardson

Talent (Eng.)/ Talent (Fr,) noun: innate ability, aptitude, or faculty, especially when unspecified; above average ability.

"Hide not your talents. They for use were made. What's a sundial in the shade?"
- Benjamin Franklin