Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Les Instructions


How to live your dream life

Step One: You have to know what you want, defined in terms of the end result.

Step Two: You have to physically and mentally move towards it, without defining the hows. Smallish baby steps work well vs. tackling too large of steps that could leave you feeling overwhelmed and defeated.

Step Three: Believe that it is coming to you.

Step Four: The thing that you want actually starts coming to you, on its own terms, from a direction completely unexpected.

I am currently in Step Three. Where are you?

Friday, July 8, 2011

Marche

Photo by Tommy Ton

Step (Eng.)/Marcher (Fr.) verb: The single complete movement of raising one foot and putting it down in another spot.

I am revisiting a concept that I was turned onto while in Rome a couple of months ago. The concept of "stepping out".

Rome is notorious for its insane driving. My chauffeur  who picked me up from the airport gave me some very useful advice for my stay, "To cross the street, you must step out into the traffic. Otherwise, if you wait for the traffic to stop, you will be waiting for ever. I am not kidding."

I found this advice especially poignant, considering that I knew only one word in Italian-- attraversiamo, which means "to cross".

He was right. Yet stepping out into crazy traffic is easier said than done. I discovered that it was a good idea to draft off of the "stepping out" of the locals. The older Italian woman were usually the best to draft off of, the tourists on the other hand, not so much. This drafting allowed me the opportunity to recognize the best "stepping out" opportunities and to gain the confidence to do it more effortlessly and independently.

I pondered this metaphor for life throughout the duration of my trip. And I continue to revisit this concept during my return in Paris.

Thursday, June 30, 2011

Distraction

Photo by Garance Dore

Distraction (Fr.)/ Distraction (Eng.): Something that serves as a diversion or entertainment. An interupction, and obstacle to concentration.

Have you ever noticed that when you plant a seed in the soil and check back on it every. single. day. that it doesn't seem to grow? However, when you step away from it (aside from occasional waterings), and forget about it while you are doing other things, something magical happens?

This is perhaps the gift of distraction-- to allow magic to happen when we aren't over watering, over anxious, or trying too hard in the grips of making one particular thing happen with all of our might. I have been struggling with my creative inspiration for a writing project that I am working on. It has even seeped over to my blog (have you noticed that my posts have slowed to a snail's pace?).

I came across an interview with Eat, Pray, Love author Liz Gilbert that turned me onto the gift of distractions (*warning, this is a longer than normal post, so grab a cup of coffee, matcha, or wine and enjoy*):

"Here's what happened: After the unexpected success of Eat, Pray, Love, I diligently sat down to work on my next project—another memoir. I worked hard, as always, conducting years of research and interviews. And when I was finished, I had produced a first draft that was...awful."

"My old friend Sarah, seeing me so troubled, came to the rescue with this sage advice: "Take a break! Don't worry about following your passion for a while. Just follow your curiosity instead."

"She was not suggesting that I ditch my passion forever, of course, but rather that I temporarily ease off the pressure by exploring something new, some completely unrelated creative endeavor—something that I could find interesting, but with much lower emotional stakes. When passion feels so out of reach, Sarah explained, curiosity can be a calming diversion. If passion is a tower of flame, then curiosity is a modest spark—and we can almost always summon up a modest spark of interest about something."

"So what was my modest spark? Gardening, as it turned out. Following my friend's advice, I stepped away from my writing desk and spent six months absentmindedly digging in the dirt. I had some successes (fabulous tomatoes!); I had some failures (collapsed bean poles!). None of it really mattered, though, because gardening, after all, was just my curiosity—something to keep me modestly engaged through a difficult period. (At such moments, believe me, even modest engagement can feel like a victory.)"

"Then the miracle happened. Autumn came. I was pulling up the spent tomato vines when—quite suddenly, out of nowhere—I realized exactly how to fix my book. I washed my hands, returned to my desk, and within three months I'd completed the final version of Committed- a bool that I now love."

"Gardening, in other words, had turned me back into a writer."

"So here's my weird bit of advice: If you've lost your life's true passion (or if you're struggling desperately to find passion in the first place), don't sweat it. Back off for a while. But don't go idle, either. Just try something different, something you don't care about so much. Why not try following mere curiosity, with its humble, roundabout magic? At the very least, it will keep you pleasantly distracted while life sorts itself out. At the very most, your curiosity may surprise you. Before you even realize what's happening, it may have led you safely all the way home."

-Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love and Committed*


* you can read the whole interview here.

Monday, June 20, 2011

Les Essentiels: Juin

(Photo by Tommy Ton at jakandjil.com)

Essentiels (Fr.)/ Essentials (Eng.) (adjective): absolutely necessary; indispensible.


Ten things that I can't live without right now:
  1. All things Google (general search, google maps, google translate,etc.)
  2. Kiehl's lip balm
  3. Baies and Figuer Diptyque candles (burning simultaneously)
  4. Cartier tank watch on a black crocodile strap 
  5. SALT aviator sunglasses
  6. Skype
  7. Creative Inspiration: OFR Bookstore in Paris never disappoints as an ongoing source of inspiration.
  8. Wine (specifically Amphibolite Nature vin blanc and Les Pieds Rotis bubbles from Paris Terroirs)
  9. Avocados
  10. Clouds in the Luxemborg Gardens
What's on your list?


Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Talent

Photo by Terry Richardson

Talent (Eng.)/ Talent (Fr,) noun: innate ability, aptitude, or faculty, especially when unspecified; above average ability.

"Hide not your talents. They for use were made. What's a sundial in the shade?"
- Benjamin Franklin


Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Erreur




Erreur (Fr.)/ Mistake (Eng.): Verb
  • To blunder in the choice of
  • To misunderstand the meaning or intention of
  • To identify wrongly; confuse with another
"Can you make a mistake and miss your fate? Maybe our mistakes are what make our fate.Maybe there are no right moments, right guys, right answers... maybe you just have to say what's in your heart."
- Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City


"Protect me from what I want."
- Jenny Holzer, the 15th Truism

Thursday, May 5, 2011

Avril: les cinq premiers

April was an especially memorable month. It marks my first trip to Rome, Italy.


Everything in Rome is saturated with history. But what really stood out to me is how large everything is. The Colosseum, Trevi Fountain, the Pantheon, the voice levels, the hand gestures, the hospitality, and don't get me started about the pizza and pastas. If Rome had a tagline, I am pretty sure it would be "Rome, Go Big or Go Home!" A tagline that doubles as a metaphor for life. I pondered this concept for the duration of my trip.

Here are five of my favorite memories from my time in Rome:

 The Pantheon

The streets of Trastevere

Lunch at L'Angolo Divino Enoteca (a divine little wine bar near Campo Dei Fiori)

A flock of nuns near the Colosseum.
You see this type of adornment throughout Rome. Charming.

"The culture of Rome just doesn't match the culture of Yoga, not as far as I can see. In fact, I've decided that Rome and Yoga don't have anything in common at all. Except for the way they both kind of remind you of the word toga."
- Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love)