Action

Fake it till you make it. This strategy is uncannily effective. (I guess it is one of the things that I admire so much about Diana Vreeland, but I digress... this isn't about Diana, for once.)

Feelings follow actions. Actions create momentum towards obtaining what we want. The idea is to go through the routines of life as if we already had what it is that we want, despite the fact that initially it feels forced. And continue doing this until the desired results become real.

So if you are feeling blue but spend the day with a huge smile on your face, you will inevitably feel brighter. If you are feeling aggressive and hostile yet talk in a hushed, kind, and slow tone, you will feel calmer and softer. If you are feeling angry at someone, and then do something thoughtful for them, you will find yourself feeling warm towards them. If you think that you can't do something and then take the steps necessary to do it, it will be possible.

By breaking down the state you aspire to into small manageable pieces, a larger shift occurs towards the sense of well being you desire.